Complicated
The interaction between men and women is a complicated one.
A long time ago, when we were once children, boys were "icky" and girls had "cooties". Boys and girls would treat each other as aliens from another planet. But in a good kind of way. Sometimes they'd play together, sometimes they'd stick to their own gender. Other times, they pick on each other.
When they got older though, things weren't so simple. The girl you accidentally hit "in the chest" blushes and calls you a pervert while you realize what you've done (thanks Pop Culture!). Girls and boys who see a "couple" start singing "___ and ___ sitting on a tree, K I S S I N G - first comes love, second comes marriage, third comes a baby in a baby carriage! That's not all, that's not all - papa's out drinking alcohol!" I still don't understand how we knew about alcohol at such a young age - oh right, Pop Culture. By the time we are in the 5th Grade in Elementary School, we feel we know everything there is to know about girls and boys and - we'd shudder to say it - love.
Even at Middle School age, we don't like to think of the icky word "love". We don't know everything about it yet we act like we do. We suddenly see guys dating girls, girls getting asked out - or, more liberally, guys getting asked out - and crushes.
When guys are exposed to this, some still see it as a game. "Dating is just a game - play your cards right and you score!" Maybe some girls feel the same way. Maybe these game-girls are byproducts of the guys who don't take dating seriously. Guys figure out ways to get a girl to "click" with him; girls figure out ways to get a guy to go for her. It's a mess. Either way, they're still acting like the kids they were when they were younger.... but things are just not that simple anymore. Life isn't a game. Love isn't a game.
When nice girls and guys are exposed to love in all it's glories, whether good or bad, they don't know what to do. More often than not, they don't play the "game". They have crushes, maybe even first loves - some are successful and stay with that first love for the rest of their lives. Others.... others aren't so successful. For the girls, they focus their energy on fanclubs for superstars they don't personally know. For guys, they stalk a girl they're crushing on. We compensate, but in a bad way.
We never truly stop doing this sort of behavior 'til we're at college age. There are exceptions, yes, but many don't grow out of our compensating actions until we reach college. Somehow though, we do it differently. Girls still have guys they gush over and guys start to gush over girls too... and the funny thing is, if you look carefully at the guys and girls, if you see them gushing over a girl/guy, they generally act the same way: they flip out, start talking almost indiscriminately about the person, and you're left wondering if there really was any difference between the two sexes.
And what about love? I hate to say it but, at this age, you either are desperate to be in love or you're desperate to stay out of love. Please refer to (500) Days of Summer if you want a classic example of what happens when one type meets the other and the former falls for the latter. Chaos ensues. And another thing... it happens all the time. So don't feel too bad.
Men. Women. It's complicated. It's always complicated, if you're single. If you're dating someone, that's a different kind of complicated.
This is life.
A long time ago, when we were once children, boys were "icky" and girls had "cooties". Boys and girls would treat each other as aliens from another planet. But in a good kind of way. Sometimes they'd play together, sometimes they'd stick to their own gender. Other times, they pick on each other.
When they got older though, things weren't so simple. The girl you accidentally hit "in the chest" blushes and calls you a pervert while you realize what you've done (thanks Pop Culture!). Girls and boys who see a "couple" start singing "___ and ___ sitting on a tree, K I S S I N G - first comes love, second comes marriage, third comes a baby in a baby carriage! That's not all, that's not all - papa's out drinking alcohol!" I still don't understand how we knew about alcohol at such a young age - oh right, Pop Culture. By the time we are in the 5th Grade in Elementary School, we feel we know everything there is to know about girls and boys and - we'd shudder to say it - love.
Even at Middle School age, we don't like to think of the icky word "love". We don't know everything about it yet we act like we do. We suddenly see guys dating girls, girls getting asked out - or, more liberally, guys getting asked out - and crushes.
When guys are exposed to this, some still see it as a game. "Dating is just a game - play your cards right and you score!" Maybe some girls feel the same way. Maybe these game-girls are byproducts of the guys who don't take dating seriously. Guys figure out ways to get a girl to "click" with him; girls figure out ways to get a guy to go for her. It's a mess. Either way, they're still acting like the kids they were when they were younger.... but things are just not that simple anymore. Life isn't a game. Love isn't a game.
When nice girls and guys are exposed to love in all it's glories, whether good or bad, they don't know what to do. More often than not, they don't play the "game". They have crushes, maybe even first loves - some are successful and stay with that first love for the rest of their lives. Others.... others aren't so successful. For the girls, they focus their energy on fanclubs for superstars they don't personally know. For guys, they stalk a girl they're crushing on. We compensate, but in a bad way.
We never truly stop doing this sort of behavior 'til we're at college age. There are exceptions, yes, but many don't grow out of our compensating actions until we reach college. Somehow though, we do it differently. Girls still have guys they gush over and guys start to gush over girls too... and the funny thing is, if you look carefully at the guys and girls, if you see them gushing over a girl/guy, they generally act the same way: they flip out, start talking almost indiscriminately about the person, and you're left wondering if there really was any difference between the two sexes.
And what about love? I hate to say it but, at this age, you either are desperate to be in love or you're desperate to stay out of love. Please refer to (500) Days of Summer if you want a classic example of what happens when one type meets the other and the former falls for the latter. Chaos ensues. And another thing... it happens all the time. So don't feel too bad.
Men. Women. It's complicated. It's always complicated, if you're single. If you're dating someone, that's a different kind of complicated.
This is life.
Life with love, sweet and sour. :) the time will come... ;)
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